Tuesday, March 27, 2007

Pater familias

I had been ruminating - even worrying - about fatherhood already much before this Sunday's miraculous event: beyond words these things are, as tightly folded buds, in Larkin's apt words, we arrive here. Tiny and helpless, full of promise and daring recklessly leaping into the cold, random world. A miraculous event indeed that only enforced my earlier thoughts: surely the only way of being a meaningful father, capable of love and protection, is to be a meaningful person. The same goes for all our human roles, being a man or a woman, a citizen, a member of a civilization. The essence is inner, it is not found in any outward characteristics, in any boastful embellishments. Having a true security about oneself but at the same acknowledging also the precariousness of all human life, the brutal limits of all personal power and aims. Acknowledging the terrible defencelessness we then have here and daring still to feel, to risk love. Surely, surely the bravest thing in this world is to love: such fierce hostages to fortune we do give - should we be so lucky.

6 comments:

Giustino said...

Palju õnne, kippis, congratulations.

stockholm slender said...

Cheers! These truly are remarkable things, that little bundle certainly melts one's heart...

Giustino said...

So do you have a small Pekka or Aino?

stockholm slender said...

An honest Pekka Poro, of course! Well, 50% at least...

Giustino said...

Half Pekka, half Juku. Pukku?

stockholm slender said...

Well, not Janne at least: it's a boy's name in Finland, a girl's name in Estonia... There have certainly been many fruitful unions between the two countries, many good examples to follow!